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Between Morality “Lefe” And  “KAYAN DAKI”… A Tale Of Marriage In A Typical Hausa Society

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Abdul Aziz Idris Yusuf

 

 

 

By Abdulazeez Idris Yusuf

 

I saw this statement credited to Sheikh Bin Uthman making rounds on social media, where the Sheikh was quoted as saying “Lokaci yayi da ya kamata a soke lefe a Kasar Hausa” meaning, its high time the issue of pre-wedding gifts be struck out in the Hausa land (Forgive my translation).

 

 

Whether the Sheikh said so or not, I for one heard another scholar, Sheikh Yusuf Tijjani Guruntum complained bitterly about such practice which today has become a precondition for marriage without which a marriage may most likely not take place.

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This is without regards for how much the intending couple love one another or how long they’ve been together or even the signs of a happy and peaceful home they’re likely to have especially if we look at their overall predispositions on issues concerning morality, education, general behavioral patterns among others.

 

Another thing I would like to add to the issue is “kayan daki”, that is, the stuffs the lady takes along with her to the husband’s house which also has assumed a huge burden on many parents and a stumbling block for a successful marriage. The funniest thing is, non of these pieces of stuff has any religious backing. They are mere cultural impositions that have come to assume some levels of importance even over and above the religious imposed criteria for marriage.

 

The negative repercussions from these harmful cultural practices are dire and unimaginable especially if we look at the high rate of divorce, domestic violence, an exponential increase in the number of mature single youths (males/girls) who ideally should be married but are not and the numerous negative consequences arising thereof from their failure or inability to get married among others.

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All this is because either the guy cannot afford “lefe” or the father of the lady can not afford “kayan daki”.

 

The funniest thing is, even where the man is able to provide these “lefe” of a thing, some parents or close family relations could be so mean to reject it on the accounts that either the stuff are too small, too local or old fashioned.

 

And where the guy is lucky and his lefe is accepted, what will be given to his own representatives in return, that is, those who took  the “lefe” to the families of the intending bride as “Tukwuici” which usually is a monetary gift in appreciation of the lefe  will be so low below what is expected and that is a signal that the “lefe” did not come as expected.

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On the other hand, the family of the groom are also not left out in this act of extortion and intimidation and this plays out after the marriage contract has been entered. The family of the groom also wash their hands and faces in anticipation of what their daughter-in-law will bring along with her and these range from her beddings, furniture, electronics, and in some cases, foodstuffs. Should all of these items be small in quantity or below the expected quality and or standard, the bride and her family also become a subject of mockery by her own in-laws and this sets the tune for some underground takes usually negative and harmful to her reputation.

To sum it all, marriage today in Hausa clans have been reduced to nothing short of a trade by barter of a business affair where either or both of the parties simply engage in to gain “profit” at the expense of the other.

 

Today, a failure or inability to especially provide “kayan lefe” has shattered the dreams of many would-be happy and promising couples and ladies are most of the time at the receiving end. This is so because, where the man is unable to fulfill “all righteousness”, the lady is either rushed, if she’s treated fairly, to bring another man to replace the “incapable one”, or in most cases forced to marry either a family relation or someone whom her parent so deemed fit for her and whom in most cases the lady has no feelings for. And the rewards for such ill-contracted marriages are usually infidelity from either of the parties for lack of love and affection for the other partner, domestic violence arising usually from insubordination, lack of trust, broken homes, mental health disorders, divorce, and in extreme cases deaths.

My questions in this regard have always been, where is our morality?

 

Do we prioritize material and short term gains over and above our happiness and that of our children?

What do we tell our Creator as parents when we finally meet with Him?

What is the way forward?

 

Abdulazeez Idris Yusuf

07/02/2021

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Kaduna State: A Phoenix Rising from the Ashes of Insecurity and Politics” By Zubair Abdurrauf Idris

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Despite the maelstrom of criticism and political backlash that has engulfed Kaduna state’s governance under Governor Uba Sani, the latest indices of easing business by the Nigerian Presidential Council PEBEC have catapulted the state to the pole position, nipping at the heels of Lagos state. This stunning revelation has sent shockwaves across the nation, with many wondering how Kaduna state managed to turn the corner and emerge as a beacon of hope in the region.

The “Ease of Doing Business” report has ranked Kaduna state a respectable second, with an impressive score of 65.1%, trailing only Lagos state, which boasts an enviable 85.6%. The other contenders, Oyo State, Federal Capital Territory (FCT), and Ogun State, have been relegated to third, fourth, and fifth positions, with scores of 62.7%, 61.0%, and 59.9%, respectively. This remarkable turnaround is a testament to the state’s resilience and determination to rise above the challenges that have held it back for so long.

This remarkable turnaround is a blessing in disguise, considering the dark days of insecurity that once shrouded Kaduna state like a pall. The state was previously ravaged by armed banditry and kidnappings, which had sent investors packing and crippled economic activity. However, thanks to the recent community-based peace deal, the frontline local government areas have been able to breathe a sigh of relief, and the state’s economic prospects are looking brighter than ever.

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Kaduna state’s journey to this point has not been without its challenges. The state has been mired in political logjam and accusations, with the former administration casting a long shadow over the current government’s efforts. However, the “Ease of Doing Business” report is a vindication of Governor Uba Sani’s tireless efforts to woo foreign investors and create a conducive business environment. The governor’s recent trip to Kuwait, which resulted in a grant of $63 million for out-of-school children, teacher training, and rehabilitation of classrooms, is a case in point.

While some critics have dismissed the governor’s foreign trips as globe-trotting, the positive results are beginning to trickle in, and they are a testament to the governor’s unwavering commitment to improving the lives of Kaduna state residents. The improved security, coupled with the government’s focus on industrialization, economic development, and infrastructure, is expected to have a multiplier effect on the state’s economy, creating jobs, stimulating growth, and enhancing the overall quality of life for citizens.

As Kaduna state continues to navigate the complex web of challenges and opportunities, it is imperative that the government remains focused on consolidating the gains made so far. The state must continue to implore all its arsenal to maintain the fragile peace, ensure free movement, and create an enabling environment for businesses to thrive. If the current trajectory is anything to go by, Kaduna state is poised to become the next big thing in Nigeria’s economic landscape, a shining example of what can be achieved with vision, determination, and a commitment to progress.

 

(Zubair Abdurrauf Idris is a public affairs analyst, wrote from Birnin-Gwari)

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Re:Replace Ribadu With Ex- military Officer As NSA,Senator Urges Tinubu

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Henry Bassey

As a concerned citizen of Nigeria and someone who desire a stable structure in tune with the modern dynamics which will invariably bring about security of lives and property, my attention was drawn to a statement credited to Senator representing Osun East, Distinguished Senator Francis Fadahunsi issued through his Special Adviser on Media, Sam Segun – Progress on Tuesday 2 December 2025 at Osogbo and published in Punch online and other social media platforms including Facebook, Instagram and X (formally Twitter) to mention a few.

In the statement, the lawmaker was urging President Tinubu “to further reorganize the nation’s security management team by appointing a retired military officer as the National Security Adviser. He also advised the President to “redeploy the current NSA Malam Nuhu Ribadu to another area of national service where his competence would be better utilised.”

The call by Senator Fadahunsi for President Bola Ahmed Tinubu to replace Mallam Nuhu Ribadu with a retired military officer as National Security Adviser reflects a narrow view of national security leadership, a dangerous direction of thought inconsistent with global best practices and Nigeria’s security needs, and a comment that should not go unanswered. Rather than distracting the nation with unnecessary politicization of security appointments, leaders should support efforts already succeeding to strengthen intelligence gathering, improve operational synergy, and pursue lasting peace across the country. What Nigeria needs is results, not recycled arguments rooted in outdated assumptions.

For a proper understanding, it should be noted that the broad dimensions of national security include physical, political, economic, social, food, energy and environmental aspects, which have expanded beyond traditional military concerns to encompass the gamut of modern threats. These dimensions are interconnected and involve protecting a nation’s citizens, infrastructure, and institutions from internal and external threats, such as cyberattacks, economic shocks, pandemics, and climate change, external aggression, etc. Military means is therefore one among many contributing factors to national security, not its essence. This understanding is fundamental to having the right national security strategy and architecture.

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Senator Fadahunsi’s suggestion that the President should replace the NSA with a retired military officer exposes a shallow and outdated understanding of modern national security leadership. The policymakers and security specialists of the United States and other climes, whose style of democracy we practice, have always leveraged this for preserving their national security. Among the many who have held that office in the US in recent times is a civilian lawyer, Jake Sullivan, and his predecessor too was a political scientist-turned-lawyer. Regardless of the difference in context, the fact is that the role has successively been held across the globe by civilians with intellectual understanding of the complex realities that undermine national security. Even here on the African continent, in countries like Egypt, the appointment of non-military security insiders and analysts is a proven practice. Few Nigerians are aware that policemen had been in control of ONSA in the past, serving under both military regimes and civilian administrations. Both Gambo Jimeta, a former Inspector-General of Police, and Aliyu Isma’ila Gwarzo, a retired Assistant Inspector-General of Police (AIG) have served as NSA, and their performance was outstanding because of their recognition of the diverse range of challenges that undermined national security, and their understanding of the relationship between the civilian and military spheres.

What lies at the core of Nigeria’s complex and multifactorial security challenge? Nigerians are bedeviled by internal security collapses that require much more than tanks and other military hardware to combat, without diminishing the need for that. The nation desperately needs ideas and brains to identify the root causes of the conflicts and proffer solutions, hence the need for an NSA who possesses a combination of expertise in statecraft and public policy, mastery of engagement with civilian and military structures, dedication to the nation, as well as experience in internal security and law enforcement, to change the negative security narrative of the country – something that Mallam Ribadu has brought to the table.

Ribadu’s leadership is anchored in deep experience in intelligence, anti-corruption enforcement, inter-agency collaboration and counter-terrorism policy. The NSA is not a combatant position, the unique value they provide is the ability to analyze available information and intelligence to predict the state of security in the nation, hence the critical need for one with an understanding of the socio-cultural and political determinants of conflicts in a country like Nigeria undermined by internal security largely. Today’s security environment demands intelligence, intellectual capacity, integrity and strategic coordination of civilian and military structures, with unwavering patriotism, qualities which Mallam Nuhu Ribadu has demonstrated for decades. He is a square peg in a square hole as the NSA. The idea that only a soldier can manage national security is obsolete.

The notion that only government officials with military backgrounds could command the necessary respect within the armed forces is a dangerous idea to be promoted by anyone in a democracy, and is far from what modern military training delivers to the officers and men of the various services. The proper democratic structure which the military stands ready to uphold and defend, including proper regard for the command of any official appointed by the President and Commander-In-Chief, needs to be reinforced, not weakened as this suggestion by Senator Fadahunsi inadvertently achieves. The role of the NSA will remain suboptimized unless the nation moves away from excessive militarization of the office, particularly for a country where the military is overburdened with taking on responsibilities under the Nigeria Police Force and other internal security agencies.

National security is not all hinged upon and cannot be left to military power and coercion alone, it must enlist the other strengths of our nation to holistically address our challenges, and persuasively engage the world. As a nation we must strengthen the civilian security capabilities we have left to waste for so long. President Bola Ahmed is on track with the appointment of Mallam Nuhu Ribadu and the results that have been delivered so far, this needs only to be sustained for more results in the interest of all Nigerians, and not disrupted by a myopic few.

Henry Bassey,
Former Lagos State Chairman, Police Campaign Against Cultism and Other Vices.
Currently Head Community Engagement, Police Campaign Against Cultism and Other Vices, South West
Email: bassey.henry373@gmail.com

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DSP Barau Jibril: A True Model of Progressive Politics

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By Dr Usman Sarki Madobi

In an era when public trust in political leadership often fluctuates, the example set by Deputy Senate President Barau Jibril stands out as a refreshing demonstration of what progressive politics entails. His approach to governance and representation reflects a blend of humility, inclusiveness, and unwavering dedication to the public good showcasing the qualities that have earned him admiration across party lines and among citizens who yearn for purposeful representation. Today, DSP Barau Jibril became a treasure in the political arena of Kano state and the country at large. His politics, representation and leadership style has made him a distinguished politian worth of supporting for every elective position both at state and national levels.

At the heart of Senator Barau Jibril’s political philosophy is selfless service. His actions consistently demonstrate a commitment to the welfare of his constituents and the nation above personal or political gain. This people-first mindset is a cornerstone of progressive leadership, where decisions are guided by the desire to improve lives, uplift communities, and strengthen democratic institutions. His reputation for placing public interest before personal ambition has made him a dependable figure in the political landscape of Kano and Nigeria as a whole.

Another hallmark of his leadership is his refusal to discriminate between party members and the opposition. In an environment where political divides sometimes hinder national development, Senator Barau Jibril proves that collaboration is possible and paramount. His inclusive style ensures that all voices, regardless of political alignment are respected and considered in the pursuit of common goals. This rare quality fosters unity, reduces partisanship, and encourages a healthier democratic process that facilitate human and Societal development.

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DSP Barau Jibril also exemplifies a dignified brand of politics that rejects violence, intimidation, and thuggery. He further promotes peaceful engagement and issue-based politics that helps in strengthening Nigeria’s democratic culture. His stance sends a clear message stressing that political success should be achieved through ideas, integrity, and service to the people not coercion or unrest. This commitment to civility contributes to a safer and more respectful political environment.

As a member of the Senate, his dedication to purposeful representation is evident in the seriousness with which he approaches legislative responsibilities. His purposeful representation made him to understand the needs of his constituents and work relentlessly to address them through meaningful legislative action. He also champion the formulation of policies that support national growth, equity, and stability. DSP Barau Jibril’s commitment in this regard underscores his credibility and effectiveness as a true representative that can transform Kano within a limited time if given the chance.

Perhaps one of the most profound aspects of his political character is his consistent respect for his party leadership, fellow members, and for humanity as a whole. True progressiveness is grounded in humility and empathy, and Senator Barau Jibril embodies these values through his conduct. His respect for others fosters cooperation, reduces conflict, and reinforces moral leadership qualities essential for building strong political institutions.

In conclusion, DSP Barau Jibril stands today as a true model of progressive politics, not only because of the offices he holds but because of the values he upholds. His selfless service, inclusive leadership, insistence on peaceful politics, commitment to meaningful representation, and deep respect for people form a powerful blueprint for the kind of leadership Nigeria needs. In him, many see a compelling example of how politics can indeed be a noble instrument for societal transformation.

Dr. Usman Sarki Madobi

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