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Why We Should All Have Mentors

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Dr Adamu Tilde

 

 

By Adamu Tilde

 

Permit me to preface this writing with two, though contrasting, personal experiences— one in 2014 and the other one around mid-2017.

 

Sometimes around August in 2014, while preparing for our study visa in Hungary, I met this intelligent guy who later became a very close friend. He confided in me that he was actually thinking of not following us to Hungary. I was like “Seriously? Guy, are you for real?”.  Something in me was telling me that “well the guy looks cool and exudes no such empty boastfulness and show-off that many young guys are known for.” Though skeptical but I was cool with his decision. I never bothered to inquire why. Life went on. In any case, he did follow us.

 

We set out for Hungary. Since we were to study the same course, we did almost all the documentation and moved around together. Given his quiet disposition, critical mindset, and insatiable quest for knowledge, it’s natural that our friendship grew stronger.

 

We began to share our stories and experiences. We later realized that we were inducted by our professional body together. We both made the distinction in our professional exams though he had 80% while I had 78%.

 

After some considerations, we moved into the same room. I had observed that whenever we were talking, especially on things that had to do with education and career, he always had superior arguments backed with unquestionable references. I was like “how could he have all those information at his disposal?”. He was and remains just too informed.

 

A day came that he was suddenly too happy. I asked him “what’s going on?” He showed an email of his selection for a big scholarship. It’s indeed a big scholarship worth €49,000. They were, all in all, seven in numbers, each person representing a continent. He was the one selected from Africa. I later learned that, in 2014 alone, he had been selected for six different Masters scholarship from four different continents. As I type these words, my friend is a first-year Ph.D. candidate at Wageningen University and Research.

 

[It’s worth mentioning that the immediate previous beneficiary of that much-coveted Scholarship also finished from the same department with my friend. Your guess is as good as mine–he was (and is still) his mentor].

 

In June 2017, I was recruited for the position of Research Assistant to a Harvard University-based study. I met yet another brilliant guy who later became close friends so much that our supervisor had to separate us by allocating us to different teams. I was carried away by his intelligence and skills in conducting his work.

 

So one day while we were talking, he narrated to me his ordeals in landing a well-paying job. I told him that he can’t be serious. With his oratory skills and unmatchable mastery of organizational work, he should be saying no to a job position.

 

I asked him to come along with his CV the following day. When I looked at his CV, I told him point-blank that he should thank God he was lucky to be even considered for aptitude test to this job. “How would prospective employers invite you for an interview with this trash of yours called a CV, my dear friend”, I asked him in a much softer tone.

 

I reviewed the CV, rearranged it to the liking of the organizations, put the relevant experiences and training here and there in addition to the type and statuses of the referees. After some fallible fine-tuning, I handed it back to him and wished him good luck. By October 2017, five different organizations were ready for him. I advised him to go with the most reputable name.

 

What do these contrasting stories represent? What can we deduce from their trajectories? What lessons can we learn?

 

In the first story, we have seen the power of information. In the second story, we have seen the glaring effects of lack of relevant information on the part of my good friend. In spite of the knowledge, skills, training and experience he had, my friend couldn’t make judicious use of his talents. He was all alone on that. There was no one to guide and put him through. And it never occurred to him that he should search for one. Both trajectories weren’t accidental. One was a product of thorough preparation through well-orchestrated plans and the other its lack thereof.

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What do I want to say?

We all need mentors at virtually every stage in our life. They help us in making the right choices. We can circumvent a lot of mistakes and regrets if we have mentors, for they must have passed through that, and will not wish us to suffer the same fate.

 

Our people have a saying that the depth of a river is ascertained by observing who enters first. As we go into the river of life, we should always ascertain the depth by seeking from those who have gone through it. Mentors are not those type of people you would confront with your truckload of problems, no. Mentors are not ATM for your cash withdrawal, please. They are special people we contact on existential choices about our life. They serve to guide and put us on track.

 

One thing worth noting is that our mentors don’t live just to attend to our never-ending demands. They also have their lives to live, and often their problems to deal with just like everyone else. We should be courteous, methodical and considerate in making our case that needs their guidance. If we sense they need space, we should give them one and more. We must avoid that nauseating habit of instant demand for attention and answer.

 

One last thing, we must be respectful. My friend, first class is not enough to land you where you want to be. Attitude is also an integral asset to carry along as you and I journey through this thorny-infested route called life. Do you know what my people say about thorny paths? “Tread carefully and be thoughtful at every step.” Good luck to all of us!

 

Postscript:

I think there’s a need for us (I mean the people on the north side of the River Niger) to do more, far above what’s obtainable. Those of us that Providence favored should imbibe the habit of nurturing potential young ones. Of what use is our intellection if it all stops with our obituary announcement? I know it’s a double-edged sword; the young ones are not forthcoming, and their attitudes aren’t something to write home about; nonetheless, we can, nay, should do better.

 

First published 2nd March 2018.

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The Fleetingness of Our Existence: The Death of Ajia Muhammad Kamil

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By AbdurRaheem Sa’ad Dembo

I had resumed to work on Monday 15th April, 2024 in Minna after Eid -L-Fitri celebration in Ilorin, when I received a call from one of my colleagues, who broke the news to me that Ajia Kamil had passed on. Innalillahi waina ilaihi rajiun.

The reality of death is scary as it will visit every soul in an unexpected time and manner. Ajia’s demise is a testament that death has nothing to do with age. He was a jolly good fellow. A straight forward young man. We joined National Examinations Council together in 2010.

If there’s anyone who reached out to me on issues concerning our organization I always referred them to Ajia at the Kwara state office in Ilorin.

He was very honest and would do his job diligently. Many of our staff attested to the fact that Ajia was an easy going person and hardworking

One remarkable thing about our relationship is that sometimes last year, he informed me of what he heard about me and upon telling him my own side of the story, he sincerely warned me to desist from any act that may jeopardize my integrity. I thanked him profusely, because he was very blunt with me. He would tell you the truth without looking at your face. That was the kind of human being he was. I never heard a report of him being in feud with anyone.

Another thing he did that I won’t let slip my mind in a hurry was when I missed promotion in 2023, the way he showed concern about it was overwhelming, loving and convincing. He was promoted but he would always call to admonish me not to brood over it. He was a finest gentleman.

The propensity of Ajia’s death hits us so hard, because we have never recorded any death amongst Ilorin Emirate NECO staff since 2010. May Allah forgive him and other departed souls within our organization and beyond.

The irony of death is, you may be forecasting and envisaging that you are still young while in the record of death you are old enough to be taken. That is the multidimensional mode of operation of death. I’m pretty sure that Ajia was not seeing death even in the next 30 years. Indeed, our existence on earth is fleeting.

As believers death will overtake us at the appointed time which is oblivion to our inclination and expectation. That is why we must do all we can to worship Allah, unite our family members and eschew bad deeds. I pray Allah forgives him, grant him aljannah firdaus and give his loved ones the fortitude to bear the loss.

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Senate President Akpabio and Religious tolerance

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Senate President Godswill Akpabio

 

By AbdurRaheem Sa’ad Dembo

It is often said that one should not judge a book by its cover. You can only effectively describe a book after one might have gone through its content in what FR Leavis and Q.D Leavis referred to as the “beautifully woven fabrics of a text”

The Leavis are literary critics; they were husband and wife. Therefore,religious tolerance can’t be seen in abstract because it is a practical disposition. One can’t claim emphatically that he or she is religiously tolerant when his actions, transactions and interactions with neighbours, colleagues and friends are in conflict.

It is on this basis,I feel obliged and enticed to talk write about the recent religious tolerance exhibited by Senate President, Godswill Akpabio when he hosted both Muslims and Christians senators for Iftar on Monday,1st April,2024 in Abuja.As a leader you must work the talk.

In his remarks at the occasion, the Senate president opined that religion cannot divide us,”stressing that it was not a mere coincidence that the Christians Lenten and Muslim Ramadan periods came up again same time.He said despite the different religions, Muslims and Christians have one God.

Mr Akpabio congratulated his colleagues for breaking their fast with him and thanked the Almighty God for enabling them to witness the day alive.He sought for God’s protection and good health for all.

He explained that it was not a coincidence that God is merging the fasting of the Muslims and that of the Christian together.He stressed that it was not the first time the two faiths were observing their fasting the same time.

He stressed the need for them to continue to work together as brothers and sisters of the Almighty God, for the benefit of Nigeria.He asserted that for every human being there is a time to be born and there is a time to go.In his words ” no matter the turmoil,no matter the political disagreement,even families do disagree.But we must bear one thing in mind,that we are serving humanity through Almighty God and that one day,we shall leave this world to go and account for our deeds while we were on earth.I think that is the guiding principle.”

One may not be far from the truth if one opines that the Senate President, Godswill Akpabio was speaking like a clergyman through his admonition to co-senators that were present at the event.

The Deputy Senate President, Barau Jibrin,thanked Senate President on behalf of other senators for inviting them for Iftar.According to him “we are really grateful.The invitation is a demonstration of the care that you have for all Senators of the Federal Republic of Nigeria.We all know you as a very caring leader, someone who cares about the welfare of all Senators.”

He equally said the invitation has reinforced what they know about Senate President and linked it to Hausa adage that says”inviting you to come is more delicious than the food.”Senator Barau also said they were happy about the invitation, because it showed that the Senate president has them in mind.He prayed to Allah to continue to be their guide and support as they work with the Executive arm of government to face the challenges confronting the country.In his words “..we are going to change the challenges to prosperity”and that Nigeria would become a land of eldorado within a short time by the grace of God.

Religious tolerance is an integral part of National integration; no one can play down its benefit in the peaceful coexistence of Nigeria.So whenever I see a leader who have proven beyond reasonable doubt that he is religiously tolerant I appreciate the person,just like the way I’m doing it for the distinguished Senate President, Godswill Akpabio.Similarly, President Bola Ahmed Tinubu has also demonstrated the significant level of religious tolerance by hosting series of Iftar with several religious, political and business community leaders in the country during the holy month of Ramadan.

Interestingly, religious tolerance contributes to robust inter-personal relationships in a pluralistic society like ours.It broadens the society for opportunity in order for a nation to actualize her dream.It also abrogates suspicion among adherents of different faith and promote love.This is why I can’t look away without writing something about what Senator Akpabio has done recently.Even as a Governor of Akwa Ibom State for eight years, Akpabio had never been in a news for religious intolerance.This is a greatest feat to his personality and it will continue to resonate across the length and breadth of Nigeria.

Significantly ,I was joyous when I saw my political principal, Senator Saliu Mustapha, the Turaki of Ilorin Emirate sitting by the right hand side of Senate President during the Iftar in Abuja.Senator Mustapha is a top-notch politician when it comes to religious tolerance.He is from Muslim majority Kwara Central Senatorial district, yet he appointed a Christian as a legislative Aide recently.It is obvious that like minds work together.

In conclusion,no Nation can strive where religious tolerance is relegated to the background, therefore we must as leaders and followers imbibe the culture of inclusivity and religious tolerance for a more United and prosperous country.

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The Cost of Incompetence in governance. A wake-up call to governors.

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By Yusuf Auwal Saleh Lulu

In the intricate dance of governance, the appointment of key officials holds the power to shape destinies and professional service. However, when political expediency trumps competence, the consequences can be dire. This seems to be the case of many appointments for chief executive officers even for critical professional organisations in the Heath, media and educational sector in most states in Nigeria. This appointment of incompetence tenure, embodies a stark lesson in the perils of appointing leaders devoid of expertise and integrity.

Handling the reins of authority with little regard for meritocracy, lead to character flaws that quickly come to the fore.
Most of these kinds of appointments are characterised by Selfishness, total incompetence to handle or administer professional tasks assigned and driven a voracious greed for personal enrichment, the ill-suited for the weighty responsibilities entrusted turns vaque and rather than stewarding the organization with wisdom and vision, they mostly embarked on a reckless pursuit of quick riches, heedless of the long-term repercussions.

Compounding their incompetence was a glaring lack of proficiency in the field they are appointed to oversee. With scant knowledge of the subject matter, they stumbled through unknown duties, leaving chaos and disarray in his wake.
Most of the organizations where these kinds of appointments are done, are those meant to be a beacon of hope, progress and some even a fighting tool under the government’s auspices, languished under these kind of misguided leadership.

Despite mounting evidence of their ineptitude, with lust most governors remained oblivious and lost to love shadows for their appointees and to the havoc wrought by these kinds of ill-conceived appointments. While some are Blinded or blindfolded to the damages inflicted upon the organization and the broader community.
Oftentimes, most governors turned a blind eye to the signs of impending disaster. Ignoring all signs with complacency shields these kinds of appointments, either from accountability point of view, to subject proficiency and capabilities, prolonging the suffering of those affected by the illusions of their mismanagement.

Yet, time is a relentless arbiter of truth. As the days pass and these kinds of stoothed leadership’s failures become increasingly apparent, the veil of deception woven by political expediency, will inevitably fray.
There will be a time that it will be too late to reverse these kinds of damage wrought by their misplaced trust with a lot of repercussions
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In the annals of governance, the cautionary tale of a selfish, impatient, and greedy leadership may serve as a poignant reminder of the imperative to uphold principles of meritocracy, professionalism, commitment and integrity in service.
For, in the absence of such virtues, the dreams of progress and prosperity risk being dashed upon the rocks of incompetence and folly.

Just because incompetence is elevated.

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