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Beyond Bread and Prayers: What Our Children Really Need

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By Binta Tanko

In Northern Nigerian homes, a quiet crisis is unfolding. It is not marked by poverty, disobedience, or the erosion of tradition, but by something far subtler: the growing emotional distance between parents and their children.

Across Arewa, countless children girls and boys alike are raised in households where love is expressed through provision rather than presence, where respect is demanded rather than earned, and where emotions are often misunderstood or dismissed.

We are losing our children emotionally, and many of us do not even realize it.

The Paradox of Love and Fear
Arewa parents are among the most hardworking and prayerful. They sacrifice endlessly, laboring to secure our futures and covering us in heartfelt du’as. For this, we are deeply grateful. Their devotion is a foundation we carry with us wherever we go.

But love cannot thrive on bread and prayers alone.

Children are not just bodies to be fed or minds to be educated they are hearts to be nurtured, spirits to be guided, souls in need of warmth and safety. Yet, for too many, home was never the safest place.

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We did not fear physical harm, but the sting of emotional rejection. We feared “disappointing” you. We feared being misunderstood. For some, the dread of a parent’s reaction felt more paralyzing than the uncertainties of the world outside.

The Outsourcing of Emotional Healing
Today, many Arewa youth especially girls turn to strangers online to process pain that should be unpacked at home. They confide in bloggers, anonymous forums, or even unverified “therapists” on social media. They beg for anonymity, pouring out their hearts to people they do not know, simply because they feel judged or dismissed by their own families.

Some find kindness in these spaces. Others are met with ridicule, shame, or dangerous misinformation. Yet, even that feels safer than speaking to their parents.

This is a warning sign.

When a child finds more comfort in strangers than in their own home, it is not just a cultural shift it is a crisis.

The Roots of Emotional Silence
Many Arewa mothers, shaped by their own upbringing, struggle to embrace emotional softness. Many fathers equate strictness with strength. Sons grow up believing emotions are a sign of weakness; daughters learn to suffer in silence.

But mental health is not “foreign,” nor is it a sign of spiritual failure. It is a human reality one that our homes must make space for.

A child who cannot speak to their parents about abuse, heartbreak, or shame is a child at risk of anxiety, depression, trauma, or worse. These are not imaginary struggles. They ripple into our schools, marriages, and futures.

A Call for a New Culture of Care
We are not asking for perfect parents. We are asking for present ones—for mothers and fathers who listen as much as they instruct, for homes where vulnerability is met with warmth, not wrath.

Let mothers know that softness is not weakness.
Let fathers understand that approachability is not a failure.
Let us unlearn the culture of silence we inherited.

If children keep seeking comfort outside the home, we will continue to lose them emotionally, spiritually, and sometimes, permanently.

It is not too late.

This is a call to Arewa parents—and to future parents, too. Let us build a new tradition, one where emotional care is as vital as food and faith, where love is not just provided but felt.

Let us restore the gentle love our homes once knew because we still need it.

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Breaking:Ramadan Cresecent Sighted In Saudi Arabia

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— The Supreme Court announced on Tuesday evening that the crescent moon marking the beginning of Ramadan has been sighted in Saudi Arabia, confirming that the holy month will begin on Wednesday.

The announcement followed reports from authorized moon sighting committees across the Kingdom, in accordance with Islamic tradition.

With the confirmation, Muslims across Saudi Arabia will begin fasting at dawn on Wednesday, observing the ninth month of the Islamic lunar calendar with prayers, reflection and charitable acts.

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Ramadan is a period of spiritual devotion marked by daily fasting from dawn to sunset, increased worship, and community gatherings.

Mosques across the Kingdom are preparing to receive worshippers for Taraweeh prayers, while authorities have finalized arrangements to ensure smooth services during the holy month.

Government entities and private institutions are also set to implement adjusted working hours in line with Ramadan schedules.

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BREAKING: Drama in Reps as Lawmakers Reverse on Electronic Results, Opposition Walks Out

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By Yusuf Danjuma Yunusa

The House of Representatives on Tuesday rescinded its earlier decision on Clause 60(3) of the Electoral Act amendment bill, adopting instead the version earlier passed by the Senate, which allows both electronic and manual transmission of election results.

The decision followed an emergency sitting and sparked protest from opposition lawmakers, who staged a walkout from the chamber while chanting, “APC, ole! APC, ole!” in open dissent.

The House had initially approved a stricter provision mandating compulsory electronic transmission of results from each polling unit to the Independent National Electoral Commission’s (INEC) Result Viewing (IREV) portal.

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The earlier version stipulated that: “The Presiding Officer shall electronically transmit the results from each polling unit to the IREV portal and such transmission shall be done after the prescribed Form EC8A has been signed and stamped by the Presiding Officer and/or countersigned by the candidates or polling agents where available at the polling unit.”

However, at Tuesday’s sitting, lawmakers reconsidered the clause and aligned with the Senate’s version, which introduces a caveat in the event of technical failure.

Under the adopted provision, while electronic transmission remains mandatory, it provides that where such transmission fails due to communication challenges, making it impossible to upload results electronically, the manually completed Form EC8A—duly signed and stamped by the Presiding Officer and countersigned by candidates or polling agents where available—shall remain the primary basis for collation and declaration of results.

The reversal has heightened political tension within the chamber, with opposition members expressing concern that the amendment could weaken safeguards around electronic transmission of election results.

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Health Ministry Enforces Federal Directive, Retires Directors with Eight Years’ Service

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By Yusuf Danjuma Yunusa

The Federal Ministry of Health has ordered an immediate disengagement of Directors who have spent at least eight years in the directorate cadre with immediate effect.

The directors affected include those in the ministry, federal hospitals, agencies, among others, according to a memo sighted by our correspondent in Abuja on Tuesday morning.

The Federal Government had, on Monday, directed all Ministries, Departments, and Agencies to enforce the eight-year tenure limit for directors and permanent secretaries, following a new deadline set through the Office of the Head of Civil Service of the Federation.

The memo announcing the enforcement of the order at the FMOH signed by the Director overseeing the Office of the Permanent Secretary at the Federal Ministry of Health, Tetshoma Dafeta, reads, “Further to the Eight (8)-Year Tenure Policy of the Federal Public Service, which mandates the compulsory retirement of Directors after eight years in that rank, as provided in the Revised Public Service Rules 2021(PSR 020909) copy attached, I am directed to remind you to take necessary action to ensure that all affected officers who have spent eight years as Directors, effective 31st December, 2025, are disengaged from Service immediately.

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“Accordingly, all Heads of Agencies and Parastatals are by this circular, to ensure that the affected staff hand over all official documents/possessions with immediate effect, their salaries are stopped by the IPPIS Unit and mandate the officers to refund to the treasury all emoluments paid after their effective date of disengagement.

“This is reiterated in a circular recently issued by the Office of the Head of the Civil Service of the Federation, Ref. No. HSCF/3065/Vol.I/225, dated 10″ February 2026. A copy is herewith attached for guidance, please.

“In addition, you are to forward the nominal roll of all directorate officers
(CONMESS 07/CONHESS 15/CONRAISS 15)

“Failure to adhere to paragraph 2 above shall be met with stiff sanctions.”

Recall that in July 2023, the former Head of Civil Service of the Federation, Folasade Yemi-Esan, announced the commencement of the revised Public Service Rules.

Speaking at a lecture at the State House, Abuja, to mark the 2023 Civil Service Week, Yemi-Esan stated that the revised PSR took effect from July 27, 2023.

The Head of Service issued a circular addressed to Permanent Secretaries, the Accountant-General of the Federation, the Auditor-General for the Federation, and heads of extra-ministerial departments, informing them of the revised rules.

“Following the approval of the revised Public Service Rules (PSR) by the Federal Executive Council (FEC) on September 27, 2021, and its subsequent unveiling during the public service lecture in commemoration of the 2023 Civil Service Week, the PSR has become operational with effect from July 27, 2023,” the circular read.

According to Section 020909 of the revised PSR, the tenure limit for permanent secretaries is four years, with a possible renewal based only on satisfactory performance.

The rules also stipulate that a director (GL 17) or their equivalent shall compulsorily retire after eight years in that position.

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