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Beyond Bread and Prayers: What Our Children Really Need

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By Binta Tanko

In Northern Nigerian homes, a quiet crisis is unfolding. It is not marked by poverty, disobedience, or the erosion of tradition, but by something far subtler: the growing emotional distance between parents and their children.

Across Arewa, countless children girls and boys alike are raised in households where love is expressed through provision rather than presence, where respect is demanded rather than earned, and where emotions are often misunderstood or dismissed.

We are losing our children emotionally, and many of us do not even realize it.

The Paradox of Love and Fear
Arewa parents are among the most hardworking and prayerful. They sacrifice endlessly, laboring to secure our futures and covering us in heartfelt du’as. For this, we are deeply grateful. Their devotion is a foundation we carry with us wherever we go.

But love cannot thrive on bread and prayers alone.

Children are not just bodies to be fed or minds to be educated they are hearts to be nurtured, spirits to be guided, souls in need of warmth and safety. Yet, for too many, home was never the safest place.

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We did not fear physical harm, but the sting of emotional rejection. We feared “disappointing” you. We feared being misunderstood. For some, the dread of a parent’s reaction felt more paralyzing than the uncertainties of the world outside.

The Outsourcing of Emotional Healing
Today, many Arewa youth especially girls turn to strangers online to process pain that should be unpacked at home. They confide in bloggers, anonymous forums, or even unverified “therapists” on social media. They beg for anonymity, pouring out their hearts to people they do not know, simply because they feel judged or dismissed by their own families.

Some find kindness in these spaces. Others are met with ridicule, shame, or dangerous misinformation. Yet, even that feels safer than speaking to their parents.

This is a warning sign.

When a child finds more comfort in strangers than in their own home, it is not just a cultural shift it is a crisis.

The Roots of Emotional Silence
Many Arewa mothers, shaped by their own upbringing, struggle to embrace emotional softness. Many fathers equate strictness with strength. Sons grow up believing emotions are a sign of weakness; daughters learn to suffer in silence.

But mental health is not “foreign,” nor is it a sign of spiritual failure. It is a human reality one that our homes must make space for.

A child who cannot speak to their parents about abuse, heartbreak, or shame is a child at risk of anxiety, depression, trauma, or worse. These are not imaginary struggles. They ripple into our schools, marriages, and futures.

A Call for a New Culture of Care
We are not asking for perfect parents. We are asking for present ones—for mothers and fathers who listen as much as they instruct, for homes where vulnerability is met with warmth, not wrath.

Let mothers know that softness is not weakness.
Let fathers understand that approachability is not a failure.
Let us unlearn the culture of silence we inherited.

If children keep seeking comfort outside the home, we will continue to lose them emotionally, spiritually, and sometimes, permanently.

It is not too late.

This is a call to Arewa parents—and to future parents, too. Let us build a new tradition, one where emotional care is as vital as food and faith, where love is not just provided but felt.

Let us restore the gentle love our homes once knew because we still need it.

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President Tinubu Appoints ex-Ekiti Gov. Fayose as Chairman Rural Electrification Agency

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By Yusuf Danjuma Yunusa

President Bola Tinubu has approved the appointment of 26 persons into the boards and management of 10 federal government agencies and commissions, with former Governor of Ekiti State, Ayo Fayose, named Chairman of the Rural Electrification Agency, REA.

The appointments, announced on Monday in a statement by the President’s Special Adviser on Information and Strategy, Bayo Onanuga, take immediate effect.

According to the statement, Fayose will chair the board of the REA, while Ahmadu Abubakar and Engineer Ilyasu Ibrahim Makinta were appointed as members and non-executive directors.

The board also includes the agency’s incumbent Managing Director and Chief Executive Officer, Abba Abubakar Aliyu, alongside the three executive directors previously appointed.

President Tinubu also appointed Major General Junaid Bindawa as Chairman of the National Salaries, Incomes and Wages Commission and approved the appointment of eight other officials into the commission.

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Former member of the House of Representatives from Lagos State, Olajumoke Okoya-Thomas, was named Secretary of the commission, while Dr Ogbole Ene Lilian, Oladele Olatubosun and Yakubu Umar Barde were appointed as commissioners representing Benue, Oyo and Kaduna states, respectively.

Other members of the commission are Dr Mai Adamu Yau (Borno), Ginika Florence Tor (Enugu), Engineer Lawrence Okoh (Edo) and Bello Morenike Iyabode (Kogi).

In another appointment, Tosin Johnson Adeyanju, who previously served as Executive Secretary of the National Lottery Trust Fund, NLTF, was redeployed as Secretary of the Revenue Mobilisation and Fiscal Commission.

The President also appointed Dr Abuh Mohammed as Director-General of the National Population Commission, NPC, Dr Akinola Odeyemi as Managing Director of the Nigerian Bulk Electricity Trading, NBET, and Dr Anthony Inalegwu Godwin as Chairman and Chief Executive Officer of the Nigeria Atomic Energy Commission.

Engineer Julius Oloro was named Chief Executive Officer of the National Centre for Agricultural Mechanisation, NCAM, based in Ilorin, Kwara State. He succeeds Dr A.R. Kamal, who died in January.

Tinubu further approved the constitution of the board of the Fiscal Responsibility Commission, with Dr Abdullahi Maikano Saidu appointed as Chairman.

Other members of the board are Mohammed Asmau, Mohammed Aliyu Makama, Dr Suleiman Gidado, Louis O. Ndukwe, Amaechi Ugwele and Olaniyi Idowu Onikola.

The President also appointed Shuni Muhammad Dahiru as Executive Secretary of the National Commission for Mass Literacy, Adult and Non-Formal Education. Dahiru replaces Professor Shu’aibu Shehu Aliyu, who was reassigned to the Petroleum Trust Development Fund, PTDF, in April.

In the Federal Housing Authority, FHA, Tinubu appointed Gisaor Vincent Iorja as Executive Director, Finance, to replace Mathias Byuan, who resigned from the position to contest the Benue State governorship election.

Iorja, an economist, legal scholar and academic, is currently the Secretary of the Benue State Independent Electoral Commission, BSIEC.

The Presidency said all the appointments take immediate effect.

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FCT Police Detain 4 Officers for Extorting N53,000 from ICPC Chairman

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By Yusuf Danjuma Yunusa

The Federal Capital Territory, FCT, Police Command has detained four police officers for allegedly extorting N53,000 from the Chairman of the Independent Corrupt Practices and Other Related Offences Commission, ICPC, Dr Musa Aliyu, SAN, during an illegal stop-and-search operation in Abuja.

The FCT Commissioner of Police, Ahmed Sanusi, disclosed this on Monday while briefing journalists in Abuja, describing the officers as “thieves” who had no business wearing the police uniform.

According to Sanusi, the officers abandoned their designated duty posts, converged around the Banex area of Wuse, where they mounted an unauthorised checkpoint, and extorted the ICPC chairman without knowing his identity.

He said the officers compelled the ICPC chairman to withdraw N53,000 through a Point of Sale, POS, operator, made him pay the transaction charges, and later shared the money among themselves.

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“I must say here too that we have about four policemen in custody as we speak who successfully extorted somebody of high importance, unknown to them that this person is a highly placed person in society. In clear terms, they extorted the Chairman of the ICPC.

“They extorted him of N53,000. They took him to a POS, he withdrew the money, paid the charges and they shared the money among themselves,” he said.

The police commissioner said investigations revealed that the officers had formed a criminal gang after leaving their various divisions to carry out the illegal operation.

“They are a gang of criminals who left various divisions, clustered together, moved to Wuse Banex and created a checkpoint where they perpetrated this act before fleeing,” he said.

Sanusi said the command subsequently declared the officers wanted and arrested their gang leader, whose confession led to the arrest of the remaining members of the syndicate.

“We got all of them. We are going to make sure they are severely punished. Those that are going to be dismissed will definitely be dismissed,” he added.

The commissioner also reiterated that the Inspector-General of Police had prohibited the indiscriminate search of citizens’ mobile phones by officers on patrol.

He advised residents not to comply with unlawful demands by police officers to search their phones on the roadside and urged them to report such incidents immediately through the police emergency lines.

“You cannot stop anybody on the road and ask the person to bring out his phone for search. If any policeman stops you and asks to search your phone, don’t agree. Call the police emergency lines and we will ask them why,” Sanusi said.

He further urged members of the public to promptly report cases of extortion and other forms of police misconduct, assuring them that officers found culpable would be tracked down and sanctioned.

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Andy Burnham Becomes UK’s New Prime Minister

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By Yusuf Danjuma Yunusa

 

Andy Burnham has become the United Kingdom’s prime minister and was invited by King Charles III to form a government, after Keir Starmer’s resignation.

Burnham enters office promising a “10-year plan for the country” to address some of the fundamental issues holding the UK back.

He added: “I’m not saying that means I’m setting out to say I’m going to be here for 10 years. It’s more that we’re not in the right place structurally.”

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In his first Downing Street speech he promised to give people “breathing room” against the rising cost of living.

He intends to urge the country to be honest about the challenges it faces and will call for “reflection and resolution.”

He enumerated that he is “acutely conscious” that the UK has had seven prime ministers in a little over 10 years, stressing the need for more stable and responsible politics and pledging to restore faith in government.

In his final appearance at the prime minister’s office in Downing Street, Starmer said his “work is done” and that he was leaving the country “stronger and fairer” than when he took office just two years ago.

“I go with good grace, I go with a smile, and I go proud of everything that we have achieved,” he added.

After a brief audience with the king, the palace announced Starmer had tendered his resignation which Charles was “graciously pleased to accept.”

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